I (28F) got invited by the guy I’m dating (Louise, 28M) to one of his friend’s birthday party (Sam, 29M).
I asked him what should I bring as a gift, but he just shrugged and say to figure it out myself. I never met Sam before, know nothing about him, not even how he looks like. I told him all of these, but he told me I’m annoying and that’s not hard to buy a gift for a guy.
At that point I did not want to go to the party at all, but he insisted because he wanted to introduce me to his friends. I accepted, but I flat out told him I won’t bring a gift. He said that was ok.
Fast forward, the birthday party came, it was ok, but at the end Sam’s girlfriend started making remarks looking at me about how “some people just came and eat your food, drink your drinks and don’t even bring a gift.”
I went straight to her and told her that I don’t appreciate her remarks and that I had no idea what to bring as a gift since I just meet her boyfriend . (Btw I brought some cookies I made, because they asked the guest to bring food/drinks). She told me that I could bring a bottle of wine as a gift.
- Her boyfriend is not drinking alcohol. (found out at the party)
- They already asked for food or drinks, so in my mind those were not considered gifts.
She just laughed in my face and called me cheap. At this point Louise joined and was mocking me for being so idiot that I could not think of a gift.
Seeing they ganged up on me, I just turned my back and left. I was by my car when I heard Sam calling my name. I apologized to him for not bringing a gift and for leaving like this. He said it was fine and that he liked my cookies and wants the recipe. We exchange phone numbers and I just left.
Louise kept on blowing up my phone and insisted that Sam is just a very nice guy and that he was very hurt by my actions.
I mean Sam seemed to be ok, but in the same time he is such a nice person.
So, AITAH for not bringing a gift?
EDIT: thank you all the messages.
I will break up with Louise, I have already made up my mind on that topic. My only concern was towards Sam, since he really seems like a genuine good person and I did not want to be rude to him by not bringing a gift.
A girl from that party sent me a message on insta telling me if we can meet, because she had something to tell me. (I met her there for the first time and we vibed on our hobbies. Not everyone there was a piece of shit.)
Regarding Sam, I’ve sent him the recipe for the cookies as he asked, but that was all. He just asked me if it’s ok to text me if he needs more information on the recipe.