Salam loves,
I’ve noticed that overtime I’ve gained a sense of resentment towards men.
I’m not making this post in a way to justify/encourage these feelings, more so just wanting to understand if anyone else relates and how they overcame it.
Experiences through life, including the double standards from men within my community, the mental/emotional/physical abuse incited onto women (from men), and a traumatic heartbreaking past relationship (yes halal), have made me feel like I just am disgusted with men and genuinely want nothing to do with them.
Alhamdulilah I am happy and content with life, still in my early 20s, and look forward to whatever Allah wills for my future. I just don’t desire love or marriage anymore like i once did. Sometimes I remind myself to be grateful that Allah showed me it was like to be loved once because it was a beautiful feeling when it was there. Now I just don’t envision or desire it again. Feels almost like I was one and done lol. I loved deeply once and just don’t see myself being able to open my heart up again
Many women in my life tell me that I’m young and beautiful and to wait for the right man to come and that I will be rewarded. And yes I do absolutely believe there are still good men out there although rare. But weirdly the idea of that doesn’t excite me or evoke any special feelings. I don’t really care for it.. I just have been turned off by the idea of men.
Have any of you girls gone through these feelings… is it wrong to feel this way?