My boyfriend and I share an apartment with his older brother. When we first moved in, everything was fine. A couple months later, his brother started bringing this girl over.
At first it was occasional, and I didn’t mind. But after about 3 months, she started coming over almost every day and basically started acting like she lives here. She showers here, eats here, is here constantly—even when my boyfriend’s brother isn’t home. She doesn’t contribute to rent or groceries at all and doesn’t even offer to help.
Over time, she’s gotten really comfortable and honestly pretty disrespectful. She and my boyfriend’s brother are very loud and inconsiderate, especially at night. They’ve had sex loud enough to wake people up multiple times, and even after being asked to be quieter, nothing really changes—if anything it feels like she gets louder on purpose.
About a month ago, she got into an argument with my boyfriend in our apartment and told him he needs to “respect her feelings” and be aware of how she feels. Then she told his brother that my boyfriend said something like “fuck her feelings” and that he doesn’t care about her, which wasn’t true. This caused tension between my boyfriend and his brother because the brother believed her without even asking what actually happened.
Recently, my boyfriend spoke to his brother and said we don’t want her over all the time anymore because of the disrespect and lack of consideration in our shared home.
Last night, she came over again like normal, didn’t speak to us at all, and acted like we don’t exist in our own home.
For context, all three of us split rent, but the lease is in my name, and my boyfriend and I pay a larger portion than his brother does.
I just feel really disrespected and uncomfortable in my own space. Am I overreacting for not wanting her here anymore?