u/Apprehensive_Elk_609

I, 22M, and my ex, 20F, broke up after 1 year and before you say anything, yes it was very serious. So my ex was the most caring, affectionate, and fun person to be around. She also has BPD which I have experienced the lengths of. I am a student graduating right now and I am going to be applying to medical schools soon, on top of working 50+ hours a week and full course load. I somewhat financially provide for myself (live and eat at home but no money given to me or anything else paid for). I really believe her being with me has gotten me through some of the harder times in my life. The reason that we broke up was because of my family. I come from a very strict culture where dating or getting married outside of it is frowned upon, but more so by my parents because I am the only eldest son. God bless my ex she did so much to try for them to like her but my parents did not even want to meet her and my sisters were just as bad. They blamed her for my mess ups and.did not listen when I tried to stand up for her. I had to lie just to see her almost every time. It got to the point that I felt terrible about what I was doing to her and how they made her feel. We did not want to break up but felt like we had to due to the situation and now I am miserable. I am not financially stable enough to just move out and every time my parents found out I saw her they would tell me to leave, which I did a couple of times but then they asked me to come back to not stress them out. My question is has anyone dealt with something similar and has any help on how I can have her and my family and for them to actually get to know how amazing she is, and if you haven't dealt with anything like this, have any ideas?