u/ApprehensiveYak4672

I'm almost to my due date, so I'll be rocking a freshly post-partum body all summer. No clue what my body will look like, I'm lean naturally but I anticipate the tummy's gonna be soft and wrinkly for a bit, also I'm covered in stretch marks.

But I looooveee the beach and will certainly be having beach days. And I still will love to feel like I look nice in a bathing suit! But I also want to hide some of the more unflattering parts. Stretch marks showing is fine, I think stretch marks are hot. What I don't want though, is my soft belly hanging over swim bottoms like a mini-apron. I want to not have a frumpy swim set though.

Also please don't attack me- I'm not saying post partum bodies are ugly or that I need to look "hot" for validation in public. The beaches probably wont even have people when I'm going, but looking hot still brightens my self esteem and therefore puts me in a good mood for the day.

Any recs from moms who've been through it before, or if not what your plan is for swimwear?

Or would you lie and hide it behind her back? Just getting a general poll from lonely men communities.

My husband and I had a huge fight following his watching of thirst traps. I honestly thought he was a good man because he is progressive and all, but it feels like he weaponizes it against me sometimes.

Deep into the fight that lasted til midnight, he yells "YOU THINK YOU'RE A BETTER PERSON? THE WOMEN I WATCH USED THEIR MONEY TO START CAT RESCUES, TALK ABOUT MEN'S ISSUES AND HELP MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH! WHAT HAVE YOU DONE? AT LEAST THEY ACTUALLY GIVE A FUCK MEANWHILE YOU SIT ON YOUR HIGH HORSE PICKING FIGHTS!"

I've just been broken. It's one thing to be told they're hotter than you (I don't need to be told), but to imply I'm a bad person and they "treat him better" is shattering. Like sometimes I think he gets it in his head that they care specifically about his mental health, it's probably a fantasy to cope since porn is an outlet, but it comes at the expense of my mental health ironically.

He's flip flopped back and forth from agreeing with me that it hurts that he watches it, to when he gets caught lusting I suddenly "won't lay off" and he gets VERY defensive of sex workers. Which is funny because he *wants* monogamy, he would never want me posting my body for other's sexual gratification. Ugh.

I'll be honest- I don't know much about property taxes so feel free to explain like I'm 5. I knew this was happening because I got a letter in the mail, and now today lo and behold, my house has increased 3x and I don't know if I'll be able to afford this when all is said and done.

We bought our house in 2019, both work honest jobs, no they're not high paying but wages also have barely increased in Lewiston, barely any raises worth speaking of in these past years despite promotions. Lewiston is not a high paying city to work in.

It just doesn't feel fair. My partner and I have held our jobs for years, did everything right, managed to buy a house to call our own in what should be a LCOL city.

Is this fair? It seems only rich people come out unscathed with tax changes like this. A lot of us Mainers are doing poorly, there's not a lot of high paying career options up here. I know it's technically fair and legal, but it just feels like crap that even when you manage to buy a house against all odds, you can still be screwed over.