My partner told me that around 8 years ago, he had a history of making out (like French kissing) with four of his girl friends. Two of them are lipstick lesbians/femme. Edited: And with one of his friends, they went as far as third base.
I actually want to ask him for more details, but that’s all he told me.
He says it was a long time ago, there was no cheating involved, and that they have clear boundaries now. They’re all childhood friends, so they’re still very close and they still hang out regularly up to now. They also sometimes go clubbing and do overnight stays together.
Even knowing all that, I still feel really uncomfortable. The idea that there was past physical intimacy between them, and that they’re still close and spend time together, just feels weird to me. I can’t shake the feeling.
For context, I’ve had past trauma involving cheating, and I tend to overthink a lot, so I feel like this situation is triggering me even more.
I do love him. I just don’t know how to deal with these feelings or if I’m overreacting.
Any advice?
P.S. We’ve been together for 3 years.