ong story short. As I was getting ready to shower at my friend’s house, I saw a phone against the corner by the sink. Flipped it around and saw it recording.
Short story long. My best friend of 25 years had her son’s 1st birthday this past weekend. We talk nearly every other day, after growing up together I moved to the city in 2017. Circumstances and life got away and the most in-person time we spent together was a few hours every-time I was back in town. So this was special! I made the 3.5hr drive in after work and had a sleepover! We spent that night and the next morning cleaning and setting up for the party, I even did her hair! I then stayed over again that night! We grew up together and it was so lovely seeing it so full circle.
My friend met her husband when we were in grade 9 and he was in grade 10. We all grew up together, school, partying, graduation. At their wedding I was her Maid of Honour. He’s a great guy and loves her so much. He works hard, everyone who’s met him sees his genuine nature. Heck, the only time they broke up was for one week, and they’ve been together for 13 years.
So here is the fucked up part. Her husband has never been creepy or given bad vibes from what I remember. And I think I’m still numb or in shock about it. I have a history unfortunately of various SA accounts, so this adds another layer for me.
So yes, I found the phone when I was naked, turned it around, stopped the recording and deleted it. But I didn’t delete it from the cloud…
So what the fuck do I do? Do I tell my friend? Do I confront her husband?
I know they’ve been having a hard time connecting since the baby. They’ve gone through two devastating miscarriages that she almost lost her life from. Had a super hard time with IVF, She doesn’t want him to touch her, doesn’t want to have sex. I’ve been encouraging her to continue therapy and go for couples therapy- but he doesn’t want to.
I’m already in the midst of trying to gain stabilization mentally and physically. It’s been exhausting and unfortunately I’ve isolated myself from other friends. I don’t want to loose her. I don’t want to ruin their relationship. But I don’t want to hide that from her.
Could this just be a big misunderstanding? Could I be mistaken?
What do I do? What would you do? I just can’t carry this heaviness around.
Like what in the ever loving fuckery is this shit…