u/AppointmentPlenty868

speaking as a woman a year away from finishing my law degree who has received support and encouragement from conservative male family members in my life, while simultaneously hearing those men over the years accuse prominent female lawmakers of having “slept their way to the top”, call women in positions of power “DEI hires” and refuse to vote for a female candidate. How do these men seemingly support rigid traditional gender roles in their politics while pushing their female family members toward successful careers? I know it’s all just hypocrisy but genuinely curious

I noticed a small-ish tick on my inner thigh around a week ago but at the time was still living in my student apartment (in which there weren't tweezers) so figured I would let it stay there until I could get to my parents' house for the weekend and remove it. I removed it yesterday morning; for the past 48hrs or so have been having extreme tiredness (like, at absolutely any time of the day I could lay down and fall asleep in under five minutes; standing up is exhausting) and a small amount of vertigo. I tried going on a walk in my neighborhood today and felt like I was going to pass out the entire time but it was also very warm out. I don't usually have issues with the heat and I'm in good shape. There was no bullseye rash. I did also finish my first year of law school this week so I'm not sure if the lethargy is just from so much stress finally leaving my body or if it relates to the tick. Could this be Lyme's? I live in a rural area so I get ticks on me extremely frequently hence why I was fine with allowing it to stay on me for a few days. I'm from the Southern NJ/Philadelphia region.

title tbh if it makes sense. I (and I have a feeling this isn't uncommon among Gen Z women) grew up witnessing my parents in an incredibly emotionally volatile relationship wherein my dad treated my mom like absolute shit. My entire view of relationships was so incredibly warped growing up because I was basically raised to think that a relationship automatically equals volunteering yourself to be just insulted and disrespected by a man 24/7. When I got older, went off to college, made actual male friends, developed meaningful relationships with genuinely good men etc I learned that that obviously is not the case and that a relationship with a man can and should be something that adds to your life and makes it better, not that makes it miserable. I've always had this immense fear at the potential of ending up with a man like my father, and I'm literally incapable of being attracted to a man who exhibits tendencies/behaviors that I feel like I witnessed in him.

I just feel like, when (some, obviously not all) men in Gen Z complain about women's standards being too high, women not wanting to date them, the 'male loneliness epidemic' etc it seems like there's just no recognition of the fact that for many women the reason we are so strict about our standards is because we've seen in real time playing out in our female family members' relationships exactly what happens when you settle for someone who doesn't live up to those standards. We've seen what our futures could potentially look like if we make the wrong choice. They think it's women being like "I'm rejecting all these men because I need to be with a guy who's tall and makes six figures" when in reality most of us are more along the lines of "I'm rejecting all these men because I need to be with a guy who sees me as a person". Yeah, obviously after my experience I'm going to be picky about who constitutes a good partner. I'm not going to entertain someone who sees me as anything less than an equal partner, or who doesn't speak to me with respect, or who doesn't support my career ambitions. I just feel like a portion of Gen Z men are completely oblivious to this.

One of my profs divides the final grade into the final exam and participation. My strategy, which seems reasonable to me, has been to try and max out my participation points so that I can ensure that going into the exam I have a bit of a grade cushion as much as possible if I end up not doing well on it. I don't participate in a way that is obnoxious or annoying, and I don't ask gunner questions or useless/dumb questions. I raise my hand around once or twice every class to make sure I'm getting the full amount of points without being overly talkative. The professor has gotten seemingly irritated every time I raise my hand and has gone out of their way not to call on me, which would be totally understandable if it was that they're just trying to ensure equal participation by everybody, except for the fact that this one guy in the class raises his hand probably 5-6x per class and goes on minute-long gunner monologues and the professor appears to have absolutely no issue with it and continuously calls on him every time his hand goes up. But for some reason I provoke annoyance when I raise my hand once or twice per class. It doesn't seem reasonable to me to grade participation but then get irritated when students then in response try and participate a lot. If you don't want people raising their hands often, don't grade participation. Anyone else dealt with this?

*the part I especially don't understand is that, sometimes, I'll only plan on raising my hand once in a particular class but then after hearing that other guy talk 4 or more times I'll raise it a second time because I'll consider that the prof must not mind answering questions by the same person, and then I'll be met with irritation/be ignored.

title lol. I need some encouragement here; I already chickened out of asking them to Barrister's