Salam,
I (23) have been living with my family (2 brothers and mother) and financially contributing to rent and groceries among other household expenses, including being the only person to actually do things with my mom as she doesn’t go out by herself.
I have told my brothers (33 & 31) that when our lease ends for this house that I’d be moving out. Now as our 2 year lease has come to an end, my brothers tell me if I leave they won’t be able to continue to afford this house because one of my brothers is waiting on a raise. They won’t move out, they refuse to downsize, and they’re very stuck on continuing to live in this house.
It’s been 2 years since I’ve been telling them I’m leaving. It’s been 6 months since I told them I’d be leaving and they told me I’m selfish and that our relationship wouldn’t be the same if I left knowing they’re not in the best financial situation.
Everyone I talk to tells me I need to move out and let them figure it out. But I’m having so much guilt in doing that because I don’t want to leave them in a bad financial position. However, I am depressed, angry, and resentful at home. I have PCOS and my health and hormones are directly correlated to my mental health. For the past month I have been fighting more with my family, I’m crying every week, and I feel hopeless.
I pray for Allah SWT to give my brother a raise or a new job so I can go but I don’t know if He wants me to stay there or not. Would He be unhappy if I left my family like this? I don’t know what to do.