My husband hates my kid
My husband (Jay) and I started dating when we were 14 years old. I moved away with the promise that when we turn 18 we would find each other again. We each dated other people. I got pregnant at 16 and kept my daughter. When I was 18 I moved back and Jay met my daughter. He asked if we could get back together and I said no, bc I didn't think he could emotionally handle the fact that I had a kid (other bio parent was never in the picture). Over the years, Jay would ask again if we could get back together and I continued to decline. Finally at 22, I agreed. We got married at 25, when my daughter was 9. Jay would have really good moments with her (daddy daughter dates, doing her hair, etc,) and have moments of hating that she existed bc she was a reminder that I dated someone else. No abuse or anything, just telling me how hard/painful it is that shes around sometimes. We've been married 12 years. My daughter is 20 and in her own place. We have 2 children ourselves (9 and a newborn). He mentioned he wanted a divorce bc he wants peace in his life which he will never get with the constant painful reminder that my daughter brings. The only way he could stay is if we moved out of state and I only saw her occasionally throughout the year. I dont know what advice I'm looking for. Typing it out makes it sound ridiculous. Any words of wisdom?