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My wife is a Software Engineer at a tier-1 company in Bangalore, but she’s currently in a team with very poor dynamics. She’s been trying to move to a different team for about 6 months now, but is hitting a wall with constant rejections at the final stages.

It’s reached a point where she is experiencing emotional burnout. I am also in the tech industry, but not a software developer, and I really want to help her land her next role.

• Given the current market, is 6 months of rejection common for mid-to-senior devs at top firms?
• How do I best utilise my connections for her? Should I be asking for referrals directly, or is there a more subtle way to do it?
• What are some ways to help her "reset" her interview mindset so she doesn't go into the next one feeling defeated?

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for some advice on how to best support my wife. She is an incredibly hardworking and intelligent software developer at a top-tier tech firm here in India. For the last six months, she’s been struggling with her current team dynamics and has been trying to transfer out.

The problem is the rejection. She has been interviewing for internal moves constantly, and every "no" is starting to take a massive toll on her mental health. It’s heartbreaking to watch her go through this. I want to make her life easier and get her out of this "zone" of feeling defeated.

I’m well-connected in the tech industry myself, but I want to be careful about overstepping or making her feel like she can't do it on her own.

• How can I help her regain her confidence?
• Is there a way I can use my network to help her without hurting her pride?
• For those who have been through a "rejection streak," what did your partner do that actually helped?