Hi all
if you're interested in my back story (wanted to share my story as estranged child - long post : r/EstrangedAdultKids)
I went full NC a couple of years ago. Despite asking my parents to respect that decision, I have been receiving quite some messages, birthday cards, etc.
Last night when driving home from work I received yet another message and it was the one that I dreaded for long.
A dry message reading: (my name), 2 weeks ago, a tumor was removed from mum at the level of the abdominal wall. We just received message it concerns the same cancer as in 2011. We now need to wait for further examinations.
to provide context: in 2011 a tumor was disovered in her uterus, it was surgically removed and she given no further treatment and diagnosed as cancer-free ultimately. Based on this message it is unclear of course whether the tumor is again just locally or already spread in the body
Anyway, I honestly don't know how to react to this message. I feel already quite disconnected from my parents, so I am a bit shocked by myself I don't feel SO much about it. Their behaviour has not changed, and such a diagnosis (how dreadful it could be) is not changing anything. On the other hand, I am not a bad person and I do not wish harm upon them (as with anyone else), so one part of me would reach out and say 'I feel your pain, this is really dreadful news', but without going back again to full contact.
thanks!