u/Anything-Academic

title, I’m going on sunday and hoping to not spend the whole movie craning my neck

I heard last year (and the year before?) that the waitlist for UCSB admitted some people mid april, then did the regular waves in may-julyish. Is that a regular thing? And does anyone know how many people usually get admitted during that time?

Alsooo on that college confidential post about it it seemed to say that OOS waitlist admits were only on that april wave and then the others mentioned only instate for the rest of the normal may stuff. Do OOS students have a lesser chance of getting off waitlist in the first place or something? Or was that like maybe a typo? I had assumed that since they said the waitlist wasn’t ranked it was mostly random lottery between majors and maybe geographic location but idek. I’ll ask over there too but I’m wondering if anyone here has any input

This came to mind because of a video I saw of a girl making fun of her own social anxiety and saying she did this, and it got me thinking about this kind of thing. I’ve definitely occasionally done this or something like it, and I’ve had the urge to many times, but I’m not sure what’s quite an appropriate response. It’s similar to like “am i annoying you” (though I think that’s worse), 1) asking the question already makes what could’ve been the answer more negative (it’s more annoying to be asked), 2) should you feed into this person’s anxieties?

Number 2 is what I’m most concerned about. On one hand, I can see that obviously someone could become obsessive and neurotic about the answer, suddenly thinking about every move they make and word they say, which would just do more harm than good. On the other, if you’re honest, they might be able to better take an objective standpoint and not constantly worry about the answer or whether you’re just giving platitudes because you pity them.

If you don’t answer at all, they also may end up just worried regardless and end up becoming obsessive about it all the same, or just be hurt/angry that you wouldn’t answer for them.

Sooo what do you guys think? Have you been on either side? What would you do / what would you prefer hearing? (As an aside, many people do not enjoy hearing those possible hard truths even if they say they’d prefer honesty, so try to be straight with yourself)