u/Any_Show_2025

Hello.
I’m not a mommas girl. I’m not a daddy’s girl. But I would become Jean D’arc for my grandma. She had to stop telling me when my grandpa calls her chubby cause I’d call him and yell! All my life she was an active, bright, and loud lady! She had the room full of laughter and she alone had kept this family a family. I love her.
Today is saw her for the first time in a year. She’s loosing track in conversations. It’s an early sign. Her light is dimming. Shes still there but it’s different. We’ve all been so focused on my grandpa’s physical health I think we overlooked my grandmas. I’m just a granddaughter that’s not around as much as I would like. But how to I approach this conversation with my dad and aunt?

Hello. I’m a 24F. I’ve been told a lot that I have autism but I don’t want to get a diagnosis because it won’t change much in my life if I know. But that being said I’ve been told I’m a complete b words since middle school (by teachers too!). I don’t try to be but it just happens. So I’m currently in a phase where I don’t care as much anymore. I tried to be nice. Didn’t work. I tried lying. Ended terribly. So now I just try to lean into it and hope for a full 180° into main lady from devil wears Prada. Idk how to explain it. I don’t try to hurt people intentionally. ANYWAYS
I’m with a lot of family for graduation season. I picked up my uncle from the airport and on the way to the AirBNB, he tells me he’s selling his house to move into an RV. Cool! I’m thinking they’re retiring gonna travel the US and see everything.
The next day I’m asking him. “Will you have a mailbox? If you don’t have a permanent address, are you homeless?”
He told me I was rude for asking. Until my mom came in and said “yeah. You are homeless.” Then he clarified later that he would be living in the RV pending the construction of his new house.

Later, I’m talking to an aunt and she mentions my doc martens. She says “I had a pair of those in highschool.”
I’ve stopped counting people’s ages atp. I only remembered today that I’m 24, because everyone was asking. So I know she’s younger than my dad but older than my mom. So I say “fashion takes 20 years to come back in style”
“That is so rude.”
“What you were in highschool 20 years ago more or less?”
“Yes 26. But something’s shouldn’t be talked about.”
My uncle was right there and agreed loudly with her.
Then she spent the rest of the conversation calling me an old lady in a young body and pale.

She said she was joking afterwards, but dang! 2-0. Like this is a life long thing and I told her “I can’t tell. I’ve been called a bitch all my life. I don’t do the little lies of you look pretty, I love this so people think I’m mean.” My bestie used the hate how I would tell her the truth of if I wanted to go out or how she looked. Then she sat on it and figured “atleast it’s the truth”

Also earlier than this I did tell her that she has lost so much weight since my childhood. She went on about how big she was so I thought it was good. Everyone else keeps commenting on the weight I lost (that I didn’t want to loose and want back so badly). Was it mean when I said it? She does look good. Docs never went out of style but I was hoping it’d be a way to talk about fashions from her youth that is making a comeback.

Am I rude?? How do I work on this?