My husband (28M) and I (26F) have been together for the last 7 years (19F and 21M back then), married for almost 4. We have two sons that are 2 under 2.
We are not a perfect couple, we hit bumps every now and again. But we have always worked through them in a very communication heavy way.
I love my husband. He’s a great father, partner, and everything in between.
Within the last 5 months my husband has been pursuing a different career entirely from what he’s been doing: becoming a police officer. I have no problem with it - I actually encouraged it - and he seems so much happier.
The downside is that he is in the academy currently 5 days a week M-F. I know this is temporary, but with this and then eventually working 4 12s or more depending on overtime, I’m unsure of how to best take care of my needs.
Is it awful of me to consider an open marriage? I love my husband so much, but where he’s been gone and will be gone for a lot of hours, I can’t help but think about what my days are going to be like with two boys, working two jobs (full time and family business), and feeling like I have no time for myself.
I feel like with no release or reliever from the stresses of daily life may catch up to me. I have a high sex drive and I don’t necessarily want to put all of that demand on my husband when he’s doing his own thing and trying to focus on that.
I don’t know if I’m in the ballpark, if I’m considering it for the right reasons, so I guess that’s why I came here.