u/Any_Potato_8953

Hi all.

Me and my partner have 2 children 10 (diffrent dad) and 3 we've lived together for 5 years. Unfortunately my mother is in end of life care after having a heart attack she is relatively young (62) and this came completely out of nowhere as she was healthy. I have been taking shifts with my siblings so her and my father are not on their own during this time. I'm beyond heartbroken, I have been switching between crying in brief moments of privacy and walking around on auto.

Normally I am the one who organises everything within the household. The meals kids activities bills etc And I've had a conversation with my partner about childcare. He works part time, and for me to have the time to sort things childcare needs to be arranged. Iv asked him to try and sort as I don't have the mental capacity right now. Iv said to him I need you to sort this and not come back to me with questions and use my mental energy. I need you to give me options ( ie. His parents can do this or he can arrange this with whoever)and we pick one and he's does the legwork.

We have just had a argument about this and he doesn't understand what I want him to do. He has said he can not move his shifts and we don't have a childminder ( he doesn't seem to understand these things need time to set up and alot of effort to research) and if he goes to book anything in or arrange something I will get mad. This has lead onto a further conversation as iv felt his attitude the last few days towards me hasn't been very nice. I haven't been snippy with him or anything but I am.aware I'm very tired and weepy he's just mooping around and he even acknowledges that he feels bad like he's not doing enough for me.... but then proceeds to not doing anything.

Iv voiced this to him thst I don't have it in me to manage his emotions right now and I need him to step up for me now because my mum is fucking dying and I am on the edge of what I can handle. I can not make it clearer than this.stop being a twat and help me.

He said to me thst he doesn't want to continue this conversation anymore because I'm getting myself worked up and he can't do anything right. He said I'm not talking to him in a nice tone and I'm picking faults with him for some reason right now.

I just need him to think ahead a tiny bit so I can have the space to fall apart

So iv just had my assessment phone call and I don't know what to make of it. The lady was lovely on the phone but spoke very fast and asked lots of questions. I did get quite overwhelmed in the middle and cried after that she slowed down.

After about an hour on the phone talking she said she wanted to get some advice from a dwp advisor and would call me back. 10 minutes later she called me back and said she had enough and would be sending off my report. I did question her cause we hadn't gone through all of my health conditions. But she just said she had enough for someone to make a decision.

Has anyone else had this experience should I be worried?