u/Any_Conversation_562

For years Iithought rejection meant something was wrong with me. Until i noticed the pattern: trying too hard to be liked, overexplaining myself, agreeing with everything, getting attached too fast, and panicking the moment someone pulled away, i told myself it was just "being nice," but honestly it was approval-seeking

What changed things was realizing people react way more to your energy than to your words. I started slowing down, pushing back instead of agreeing with everything, saying what i actually think, and matching the other person's investment instead of throwing myself in headfirst, still working on it, but it's the first time i actually get why the same patterns kept repeating

Anyone else relate?¿??¿

I was investing way too much too early, like texting a lot, showing interest fast, trying to “build something”, before the other person even got there.
At the time it felt normal to me, now I can see how it probably felt like pressure
I also noticed I’d get anxious if they took too long to reply
which just made me act even worse, lately I’ve been trying to just match the energy instead of pushing it, it’s a small change but it feels very different. Still figuring it out, but yeah… just sharing in case it helps someone

I didn’t realize how bad my overthinking was until I couldn’t even rest anymore, I would lie in bed, completely exhausted, but my brain just wouldn’t stop. Replaying conversations, imagining worst-case scenarios, thinking about things that didn’t even happen. What actually helped me wasn’t motivation or “just relax” advice. It was a simple mental reset technique I started using daily, it’s nothing complicated, but it gave me back a sense of control I didn’t have before. Is your situation the same as mine???