Unsure of how to feel right now. I’m head over heels in love, I’ve never been treated so well and genuinely felt safe and loved like this. I’ve felt I could spend forever with this person. Recently someone approached me and told me my partner SA’d their sibling for years. I confronted my partner, they said they were going to tell me. They’ve told me it’s their biggest regret and mistake. It occurred from around ages 15-18. It’s currently up for debate if it happened as an adult, my partner is saying it didn’t. The 3rd party is saying it did. My partner is in contact with their family, including their sibling. On good terms. Literally what the fuck do I do. I’ve never felt so alone and confused.
EDIT: for my partners sake a little, I will say, they were SA’d as a child and grew up in a very religious community. The situation was not handled well by the parents. There was much therapy afterwards and an investigation. This makes me feel confused. Because I can empathize to an extent. Since the SA was being normalized throughout childhood and brushed under the rug and my partner carrying on that trauma because that’s what they knew at the time. It’s been about 10 years since the last instance.
EDIT 2: they were no contact with family for awhile. Fairly recently got back in contact with family.