Me(23M) and my partner(23N) have been dating for around 8 months. We've had to do long distance due to me transferring to a college across the country.
To preface recently my partner's been having a rough, especially with graduating soon and figuring out what comes after. And I've been doing my best to support them, and they've fallen into a bad depressive state. I'll text them whenever I have the time, albeit they're short messages usually. I try to do my best to answer first chance I am available. I'm not the best with comforting but I do try. On their rough days I offer to watch shows with them when they are too tired to talk but need a distraction.
Though I've been also juggling what had amounted to be one of my highest workload semesters. I had a final project, that's been taking forever, and dozens of papers and assignments. It's also not been the best time for me either, as I suddenly lost a family member 2 weeks before finals. That incident caused me to fall behind on my final assignments, so last week I was scrambling doing all nighters to get them finished. I should also say I have ADHD, and when I get stressed my symptoms tend to become more exaggerated.
Last week put me into what feels like a lobotomized tailspin, in order to focus I had to lock myself away to finish my work. This has lined up horribly timing wise, as my partner also was going through one of their worst weeks. I've tried to be there for them because they're in a really vulnerable state. Though I've been really forgetful and unorganized trying to figure out how to balance being there for them and finals.
The result had been my partner feels like I'm neglecting them, or being more distant. Bc I have been terrible about responding back to some texts and been generally checkout emotionally. To some extent they do understand the pressure I am under. Still they feel like I don't see them as a priority, and I feel bad knowing that in the current situation they partially are. And really does suck because I do want to support them the best I can. My brain is just really wonky right now and I am exhausted.
We have talked, but I am not really sure what I should do moving forward.