*RANT* nonstop unsolicited health advice
this might get long, but really need to get this off my chest. my roommate has been pestering me with unsolicited health advice to the point where its making me kind of hate her.
i (21F) have been living with my college roommate (21F) since freshman year and she's been an awesome roommate, but she has this weird fitness superiority complex and it's driving me nuts. for context, she's on track to be a physical therapist and she's extremely passionate about the subject, which is awesome! she's also really into weightlifting and fitness, also awesome! i support all her interests and despite not being too into fitness myself, its always fun to learn new stretches and workouts from her.
my issue is that i feel like she sometimes oversteps and makes me feel insecure about my body. for reference, i'm 5'3 and have always stayed under 115lbs, i cook decently healthy meals for myself often, and i try to fit in a small 10 minute workout into my day when i can. i know i'm not the healthiest i can be, but i really don't think i'd be considered "unhealthy."
i used to go to the gym with my roommate more, but whenever we'd go, she would always interrupt what i was doing to make me do some new workout routine she made, which i never complained about, but not only would it pry me from my own stuff, but it made me feel awkward having her coach me on something i didn't even ask to do in the first place. now i stick to doing exercises in my room by myself.
with that, i've suffered from migraines with aura which puts me at a higher risk of having a stroke, but i'm young so i'm not gonna let that fact eat me alive, but i'm still well aware. in this past year my father also suffered from a TIA which is basically a miniature stroke. in an emotional state, i shared this pretty delicate information with my roommate and she immediately started telling me how i need to watch out and start taking better care of myself. she also took this as an invitation to tell me that my dad better start making some serious life changes if he wants to live long, which i assured her he is quite aware of.
now, she brings up my father's stroke and my health more than i do. when hanging out with her and my other roommate, we were talking about cardiovascular studies and i said that i'd never be able to study something like that since i'd probably go into psychosis worrying about my body and whatnot. my roommate responded with, "girl you should already be worried with your dad's stroke and all the other stuff you have." um, bitch? am i crazy or was that sort of rude as hell?
mind you, this was months after i had told her and my other roommate about my dad. my other roommate, we'll call her jenna, was incredibly sympathetic towards my dad's situation and has never brought it up since then. this is the fourth time my roommate has brought up my dad's stroke and every single time its been so unnecessary and has made the conversation felt weird afterwards.
as far as i know, my roommate has never brought up health and fitness to jenna, who goes to the gym every so often, like she has with me. it just fees like she targets my health whenever she gets the chance and it makes me uncomfortable to talk about personal things with her.
my roommate is really one of my closest friends and i don't want to be distant with her, but she makes it so hard to want to be close if i know she's going to take unnecessary jabs at my physicality and the health of my family.
sorry this was a long rant, i know this is a super dumb thing to feel weird about, but i just needed to get it out.