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not going to go into details here, but when i was about 9 i was sexually assaulted by another friend my age. i don't blame her whatsoever as i can only imagine what happened behind the scenes, but it still effects me heavily.

i knew vaguely that it happened and remembered the general action of it happening, but other than that i could recall absolutely nothing else. well, about 6 months ago i ran into the girl it happened with. we didn't even talk, but just seeing her kind of brought everything that i had been stuffing down to the surface.

after this encounter ive had some of the most horrific nightmares. mostly reliving the assault in detail, but many other odd dreams where i end up being raped/sexually assaulted. it's ruining my sleep and mental health because i keep reliving it over and over again and it's gotten to the point where im scared and hate going to sleep.

Ive told my therapist about the nightmares but not that they're about the assault because for some reason i cant bring myself to verbalize it out loud. is there anything i can do to stop them myself, without needing to tell anyone? im quite ashamed, embarrassed, and think that telling someone will only make me feel even more disgusting. i want this to stay my secret, but i also want to be able to sleep peacefully and stop reliving it.

anyone experience the same, or have any advice?

Location : Pennsylvania

(This might be a little long)

Back in March of 2024 (March 5th exactly) my father (54m) herniated a disc and suffered multiple buldged discs at work, and basically ended up half paralyzed due to the fact that we cannot afford the healthcare that's needed to help him out. The problem here is that his manager DID NOT file workers comp for him despite him asking very clearly in their texts 3 times.

He filed a claim in June after waiting 3 months for his manager to file the comp. It left him with no choice but to go to a doctor for a second opinion, and it got to the point that he was in so much pain he couldn't drive. He talked to her constantly about the pain he was in, how he couldn't physically go back to work, and how his quality of life had become depleted exponentially. She put him into physical therapy that lasted about 3 months until we couldn't afford the bills anymore. After that was multiple medications, opioids, and MRI's that did nothing to treat his pain.

Now, fast forward two years. His caseworker originally told him that they have a 200,000 dollar case. Now it has dropped to 40,000 because he is saying that my father could have filed the claim himself because he was a manager (he was an ASSISTANT manager and was not even able to file his own claim, that was his managers job) and that there arent enough medical records to prove he was hurt at work and not somewhere else. He had no history of back pain before the night he injured himself at work, but for some reason, this proves nothing? He works in retail which is extremely physical, part of his job was lifting 500+ pounds of merchandise when unloading trucks (this is what he was doing when he was hurt.)

To me this is absolutely unbelievable. There are texts between them with him telling his manager he was hurt at work, he needed workers comp, and couldn't come back to work. There are medical records showing he had absolutely no back pain before his work injury and that he had been regularly bringing it up at each appointment. His case worker reached out to this doctor, at which point she told him that she had filed ZERO medical records about herniated and bulged discs specifically. How is this not enough? At this point we have spent so much money, if this settlement doesn't go through we will be bankrupt. I'm panicking pretty bad because we had so much faith sitting on this, the lawyer was so overly confident he could get 200k that we figured it would be a fairly easy case to make.

PLEASE help me out here. Absolutely any advice would be appreciated