Lying in relationship about use?
My partner promised me they wouldn’t use any more. (It was not daily but regular the past month after a couple month lapse 12 months ago and prior 10 years of nothing)
They agreed it was a bad substance for our relationship, and that we were going to work on rebuilding trust and love for each other.
I’ve just witnessed on our home camera footage them sneaking a fit kit into their overnight bag to go to a friends for the evening (fishing/party night).
They literally disowned their best friend earlier in the week for keeping their use a secret/still using, ( past month friend) but promised me that they wouldn’t as it’s not worth loosing our relationship over and it was assumed the friend was going the same, but I’m not in a relationship with that friend!
Can you ever trust an addict again? Especially when they do narcisistically cut out a good friend (of both of you) but then do exactly the same.
I feel like I can’t call them out on it either otherwise they’ll have an angry outburst (Eg: when found out friend was still in possession threatened to tell their employer). Plus I can’t afford the rent on my own so they’ll no doubt withhold the 4 weeks rent due on Tuesday next week (or their 50% worth).
Is narcissism a normal trait of a secret addict?
I don’t know what to do here….. I legitimately feel like I can’t say or do anything because of the back lash/anger that will come from it.