My friend is getting married to the worst man I’ve ever met in my entire life.
I’ll try to keep it short. My friend Amara 31f, is engaged to Elijah 33m after only dating for one year. She got out of a long term relationship last year after her long time partner basically up and left. It was awful. She ended up finding Eli a few months after that break up and they have been together since. I’m not lying when I say this man is fucking horrible. He’s loud, always drinking, has multiple DWIs. He can’t hold a basic conversation and is always saying some gross sexual comment about women. Talking about women like they’re the punchline to jokes. It is disgusting. He seems more like a childish frat boy than a man. He cannot do conflict, walks away when she is upset with him even about something minor. Then love bombs her like crazy.
She seems happy but i can tell she isn’t being honest with me. I’ve heard from others that they’ve broken up and gotten back together several times but she never tells me these things directly. I’m sure she can tell I don’t like him. He is known for being a serial cheater, liar, and manipulator.
Anyway I need advice. I don’t know how I can support this wedding. On the other hand I’d also hate to miss seeing her special day. She has been dreaming about her wedding day since we were in middle school. 🥺I’m TERRIFIED she’s making a giant mistake and going to be stuck in a miserable marriage. If I say something I’m afraid I’ll push her away or she will shut me out. If I keep quiet I feel like I will never forgive myself if her marriage ends in shambles. I’m just so tired of her being hurt by the men in her life. I feel like this relationship is just helping her feel comfortable after her entire world was flipped, but I also don’t want to stop her from being happy. I don’t want to lose her idk. What do you all think? I want her to be happy and have a partner that is more of a help than a burden to her life.