u/Any-Preparation-1030

This is all fresh, so emotions are still high, but in a nutshell my 17 year old son gave me a black eye yesterday after an argument about something stupid. I’m a single mom with little to no support from grandparents. He had only done something similar when he was 12 (kicking and punching me). Previously, I told him he was welcome to stay at home and go to school to save money. I don’t have a ton of money and looking back at how long I was in college and rented it totaled over 100k. So of course I want to give him an advantage if I can.
The argument shouldn’t have happened, both parties are at fault, I’m disgusted and ashamed and saddened. I haven’t stopped crying and replaying this over and over. I don’t think I want him here after this incident. He turns 18 in July and he knows better than to touch a woman or hit anyone. What do I do? I know there are rules I have to follow if I want to get him out, but I honestly feel like this is something that will change the dynamic of our relationship forever. He’s a junior in HS btw. I’m also thinking of just switching him over to public school so he can catch a bus vs me waking him up every single day , taking him to school and bringing him home. Also, save myself the tuition since he had a falling out with his friends. His dad is not in the picture, by his own choice-since our son was an infant. No negative comments please, I literally am crying as I type this.

I’m in my late 30’s and for years now I have struggled with difficulty losing weight, fatigue, etc. I finally went to a new doctor that found my TSH level was high. I have never identified with being a depressed person, mainly anxious, but for the past year or so I have times where I am just spent, empty, going through the motions, barely energy to care for my teen son and myself/our household. thank God I work from home. Before my lab work i was feeling so empty, down, hard to think, low energy, that I honestly was about to ask my dr to go back on an antidepressant that helped me postpartum. Surprise. It’s been my thyroid. The adjustment of meds has been slow, but I am starting to feel slightly better, but it comes and goes in waves where I am barely able to function , get frustrated, so tired one extra menial task feels unbearable. I’m a single mom and my older teen son doesn’t understand this at all. He does still have screen time on his phone (for a multitude of issues) and lately his screens state he’s been on there for 22hours (leading me to believe he’s not logging off something). Okay, great, if you’re not sure, ask Apple support. I have changed the times for his screentime I can’t even tell you how often now and I’m about to figuratively die. It’s one more task and my son doesn’t get ‘why it’s so hard to push 2 buttons’. Again, there are reasons he has screen time enacted on his phone please don’t come at me. How do I get him to show some empathy and help me with this and stuff around the house. I’m exhausted and have adhd on top of it, so my brain already gets mentally tired quickly anyway. Please be kind, I literally want to cry. I never wanted this to happen to me and it’s a fairly new diagnosis. I just am at my wits end.by the way, I have had talks with him but he acts like he doesn’t care. Maybe because it’s an ‘invisible’ illness, I don’t know. I tell him, if you see if needs done , please just do it. Sometimes it is exhausting for me to even ask you. (You put a bunch of trash in the trash can and it is overflowing ..take it out without me asking?) you see that I started the dishes in the dishwasher, put them away?