Hello, I’m new to Reddit but my close friends said I may find advice here with a community who understands more than they do. So here it goes.
I have been doing EMDR for over a year to combat my CPTSD. This last session was confusing. He had me look at my current relationship with my partner of 7 years. My partner (40m) and I (36f)have been through a lot together, but there’s still strong love between us I believe. They don’t always display their best character with me at times, but I try to be there for them and understanding. Recently my therapist has put in my mind that the relationship is one-sided and that the effort doesn’t come from them and now it has made me rethink my life with this person. I’m now considering maybe a break from my partner. My partner has a warm loving side but can be cold at times of friction. I do care about my partner and at times I do feel safe with them. I now feel very confused and conflicted. My partners consistency of care has dropped significantly in the last five months, and I have addressed this with them which they promised to fix, but it still seems like no effort has truly been made. I don’t want to completely leave my partner and make a mistake of losing them. Do I trust my therapist and possibly walk away from them? I am worried I am not seeing what my therapist is now.