Is my boss attracted to me or confused by me?
I’ve had some interesting situations with my boss even before he was my boss, I’m not sure if I’m over reading because I can be anxious. Maybe my anxiety is creating the tension, maybe he thinks I’m weird and awkward?
I’ll start from where I first noticed. I used to work in a different department near his. I had a new desk in the big lobby. Across the big lobby were offices and a walk way. Occasionally I would look over and he would be walking by and just staring. I thought it was a bit odd then one day I was super focused on my computer and felt someone’s presence I looked up and he was staring down at me and didn’t even notice me look up at him. It took him a couple seconds to notice and then he had a look on his face like he was unsure what to do, so I smiled and he smiled back. He didn’t say anything and kept walking, I could not figure out what he was looking at or why he would be looking so hard. It felt like he was looking at my body but I felt crazy for thinking that. I feel like if it were anyone else they would have at least said something… I had a weird interaction in the elevator one morning when he stood on one side facing me and smiled. I looked down at my phone and back up and he was still looking but never said anything. His previous assistant said he’s the most reserved and a I’m the boss your the employee type that was all before he was my boss.
at the end of my interview he was speaking about where I would be sitting and mentioned how it wasn’t close to his desk because he can’t keep me all to himself. And after I was hired during my first week I had a meeting with another team that I would be helping when I first walked in the only chair left was the head chair and he must have seen how nervous i was bc he immediately got up and gave me his seat. Which was nice. But after he called me about the notes and mentioned if I saw how he saved me from that seat. I was kind of caught guard by that. During all our time together he seems like he pays attention to how he comes across and seems to be aware of how others might notice him if he were wandering around because he’s the boss and all so it doesn’t make sense to me at all.
there was also another meeting with him where I had glanced up and he looked at me and seemed kind of scrambled and looked away and seemed to lose his train of thought. It felt so embarrassing like I had done something. Then at the next meeting he had completely turned sideways when sitting across from me and looked at everyone but me, and I was taking notes so maybe that’s why? But at one point he even had his arm and hand up blocking his face while he spoke.
I just feel embarrassed like does he think I’m weird and awkward. He’s given me nothing but praise. It’s so weird