My dad keeps calling my brother (12 M) and I (16 F) “Burdens”
I want to start this by saying my dad is a good father. he has his flaws like any normal person. But he has been calling my brother and I “burdens” like financially. and I understand that having kids is expensive but it is not necessary to say that your kids are burdens.
to give you background my dad and mom are divorced. from what I heard my dad and he says it himself as well “he didn’t want kids” and if he did he only wanted girls not a girl and a boy. so that add pressure to my brother who’s almost 13. and he also has ADHD like extreme ADHD. and he to put it lightly is like having 10 younger brothers at the same time. and so he expresses his frustration in a gc with me, my mom, and my stepdad. and its annoying and humiliating that he is talking bad about my brother constantly. on top of saying we are burdens for example my brother and I had a dentist appointment and my dad says to me in the car “you kids are expensive“ or something along the lines of that. and I answer “well you decided to have kids so you can’t really be complaining“ and my dad goes “well I never wanted kids” and that stung. and I am not the best at making boundaries and idk if he is joking or not. I just need advice on what to do.