Is it me or her? Struggling with intimacy and feeling lost
My current girlfriend and I are having a really hard time in the bedroom. She says she barely feels anything during sex, and it’s really affecting my confidence.
I’ve gained about 30 kg recently, and I think the pubic fat pad might be reducing my effective length during penetration — she even says I don’t reach where I need to. I tried using a vibrating egg toy internally, but she says she only feels the vibration, nothing else.
Here’s what confuses me: years ago I had a friends-with-benefits situation, and she was incredibly responsive — never seemed to fake it. She had already had a child, not sure if that’s relevant. I was also 30 kg lighter back then.
Is this likely a physical issue on my end (the weight gain), or could it be anatomical differences between women? Or something else entirely? I’m genuinely lost.