hey everyone. i'm struggling a bit internally because i've noticed a pattern of it taking me a long time to move on from someone, like longer than i think it should. i'm 20f and i do have some abandonment issues. i guess im looking for advice/information, like why does it take me so long? and is there any way i can fix this? some examples;
my ex and i dated for a year, he broke up with me, and it took me about 2 years to fully move on.
another guy i saw briefly earlier this year, we had a friends with tension thing for about 6 months, then exclusively talked for 2 months but never officially dated. he ended things with me about 2 months ago and i'm still really missing him/still have feelings for him.
i know that im just the kind of person that feels emotions more deeply, but i feel like this is abnormal. any advice? i want to be able to move on and not be hung up on people for way longer than i should.