24F, black British. I previously posted on how to tell my African parents I have a boyfriend. Conclusion is to just not tell them as they’re going to react badly. Anyways, if I move out of my parents house I’ll have more freedom to do whatever I want. As aforementioned I have to lie when I’m going to places with my boyfriend and we also want to go on holidays together and if I want to go out with friends they start asking me a million questions like “who are they? Where are you going? You need to be guided by the Bible” 🤦♀️ and there’s other things I’d like to do like join dance classes again but they’d probs try to talk me out of going. Furthermore whenever I talk about buying a house on my own and moving out and looking at houses to rent, my parents keep asking me why I want to move out and they’re saying they’re “suspicious as to why I want to move out all of a sudden” what should I do? Just continue looking for houses and move out and not tell them why? Or I could do a masters degree and go to live in a student house/university halls. Idk.
u/Anxious_Wave5989
Basically I am 24F and I have been dating my boyfriend (I am black british female, he is polish) since november 2025. My older sister knew I was dating my boyfriend in november and december but then in January she told me to tell my parents that me and him are dating and it did not go well (we had only been on 3 dates at this point it was way too early) my mum got really angry that I was dating him and said he is not the right guy for me (despite never meeting him) and my dad said the same. For context my parents are really religious christian (protestant) and my boyfriend is catholic and works in retail and I am a nurse. They disliked that he is catholic and works in retail though he is trying to get a better job. But basically they do not know that I have continued dating him, he is a nice guy and treats me well, I am not ending a relationship over nonsense, however when me and him go on dates I tell my family I am elsewhere, I am wondering when I should tell them that I am still dating him? maybe when he gets a job as something that they view as professional? or maybe when we get engaged? IDK, only reason I want to tell them is so I can meet up with him on weekends too not just for a few hours after work like currently. (currently living with my parents btw)