u/Anxious_Primary_1107

Salam all,

I (M24) have been using one of those Muslim dating apps for a while now. And before you come at me saying these apps are nonesense (which I partially agree), I don’t have much choice since I’m childfree. Hence it’s easier for me to filter this through the apps than in real life.

So lately I’ve been talking to this girl. And while everything seems great at first, I never felt sure about her. And this is not the first time it happens. I’ve matched with many other girls before and it always ends up like this. In other words, I always end up doubting if I like the girl enough. But at the same time, I know I am not perfect, and I should be realistic or not too choosy with what I look for in a potential.

Is it normal to feel this way? To any of you who are/were married, were you 100% sure about your partner? If so, can you describe what ‘being sure about someone’ actually feels like. Or were there still small doubts along the way that you decide to ignore?

Or, maybe there is just something wrong in me? I have to admit I sometimes feel not ready to commit. But I kept using these apps in hope that I can find someone who can make me want to commit. But I don’t really know. It’s weird because even I do not have an answer.

I don’t want to waste people’s time and give them false hope. Please advice.

Note: I know no one can help make the decision for me. But I just wanted some perspective on those who were able to go hardcore backpacking throughout their 20s. What changed as you age?
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M24 here. I’ve always loved backpacking and adventurous travel. During uni and before starting work, I managed to do quite a handful off-the-grid trips and honestly I don’t feel quite done yet and always look forward to do more of these.

However, recently, I received a job opportunity that would require me to relocate somewhere where travelling becomes much harder, mainly due to distance, cost, as well as lack of holiday leaves. It’s a contract work and I’m pretty much guaraanteed the job until the max next 5 years. On the posive side, the job pays pretty well. And since I won’t be spending much (I dont spend alot aside from travelling), it’s a brilliant opportunity to stack some money.

The dilemma is this: if I fully commit to this path, I’ll basically be putting long-term travel on pause until I’m around 29.

And I know 29 is not old. But after tearing my ACL last year, I started becoming more aware of how fragile the body can be. I try my best to keep my fitness in check and make I am always in shape. But I still wonder whether the rugged style of backpacking I enjoy now (long bus rides, sleeping at the airport/bus stations, hitchhiking, constantly moving around) will still feel the same in my late 20s.

Part of me worries that I’m “wasting” the prime backpacking years of my life.

At the same time, another part of me thinks sacrificing 5 years now could massively improve my finances. To the point that I probably could take a year off or two once im done with this contract job.

So I’m curious to hear from people who’ve been able to do both. How different is travelling in your early 20s vs late 20s? Did your energy, interests, or tolerance for rough travel change a lot? Or is this fear mostly in my head?

Note: I know no one can help make the decision for me. But I just wanted some perspective on those who were able to go backpacking regularly throughout their 20s. What changed as you age?
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M24 here. I’ve always loved backpacking and adventurous travel. During uni and before starting work, I managed to do quite a handful off-the-grid trips and honestly I don’t feel quite done yet and always look forward to do more of these.

However, recently, I received a job opportunity that would require me to relocate somewhere where travelling becomes much harder, mainly due to distance, cost, as well as lack of holiday leaves. It’s a contract work and I’m pretty much guaraanteed the job until the max next 5 years. On the posive side, the job pays pretty well. And since I won’t be spending much (I dont spend alot aside from travelling), it’s a brilliant opportunity to stack some money.

The dilemma is this: if I fully commit to this path, I’ll basically be putting long-term travel on pause until I’m around 29.

And I know 29 is not old. But after tearing my ACL last year, I started becoming more aware of how fragile the body can be. I try my best to keep my fitness in check and make I am always in shape. But I still wonder whether the rugged style of backpacking I enjoy now (long bus rides, rough accommodations, hiking, sleeping anywhere, constantly moving around) will still feel the same in my late 20s.

Part of me worries that I’m “wasting” the prime backpacking years of my life.

At the same time, another part of me thinks sacrificing 5 years now could massively improve my finances. To the point that I probably could take a year off or two once im done with this contract job.

So I’m curious to hear from people who’ve been able to do both. How different is travelling in your early 20s vs late 20s? Did your energy, interests, or tolerance for rough travel change a lot? Or is this fear mostly in my head?

Note: I know no one can help make the decision for me. But I just wanted some perspective on those who were able to go backpacking regularly throughout their 20s. What changed as you age?
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M24 here. I’ve always loved backpacking and adventurous travel. During uni and before starting work, I managed to do quite a handful off-the-grid trips and honestly I don’t feel quite done yet and always look forward to do more of these.

However, recently, I received a job opportunity that would require me to relocate somewhere where travelling becomes much harder, mainly due to distance, cost, as well as lack of holiday leaves. It’s a contract work and I’m pretty much guaraanteed the job until the max next 5 years. On the posive side, the job pays pretty well. And since I won’t be spending much (I dont spend alot aside from travelling), it’s a brilliant opportunity to stack some money.

The dilemma is this: if I fully commit to this path, I’ll basically be putting long-term travel on pause until I’m around 29.

And I know 29 is not old. But after tearing my ACL last year, I started becoming more aware of how fragile the body can be. I try my best to keep my fitness in check and make I am always in shape. But I still wonder whether the rugged style of backpacking I enjoy now (long bus rides, rough accommodations, hiking, sleeping anywhere, constantly moving around) will still feel the same in my late 20s.

Part of me worries that I’m “wasting” the prime backpacking years of my life.

At the same time, another part of me thinks sacrificing 5 years now could massively improve my finances. To the point that I probably could take a year off or two once im done with this contract job.

So I’m curious to hear from people who’ve been able to do both. How different is travelling in your early 20s vs late 20s? Did your energy, interests, or tolerance for rough travel change a lot? Or is this fear mostly in my head?