I have been with my partner for almost 4 years. He confessed his porn addiction to me in September of 2025. When he first confessed to me I was obviously angry but then I had so much hope and wanted us to be better and rebuild. Well, 7 months and a lot of empty promises later and not much has changed and I am just at the point where I can’t put more energy into this than he is. We never had a good sex life (I’m talking like 3-4 times a year) but I was hoping after he was clean it would get better but it hasn’t. We have had sex maybe 3 times since December. He says he is clean and hasn’t relapsed since his confession. He has a porn blocker on his phone. I obviously know if an addict is going to do something they will find a way but I have to just believe his word or else I will go crazy tracking everything he does. I have had multiple conversations about it and he asked me to initiate more so I did and then the rejections came again so I stopped. I guess I’m just wondering if anyone else’s sex life didn’t get any better when their partner was not actively watching porn.
Also, if anyone could recommend resources on how to rebuild intimacy after this kind of betrayal I would appreciate it.