I’m 18M and she’s 18F, and we both go to different international schools in Seoul, but we met through the same academy. A few days ago, I started texting her on Instagram, and ever since then, the conversation has just been flowing nonstop. It’s gotten to the point where I actually look forward to replying, and I catch myself checking my phone more than I usually would. The thing is, we’ve already covered a lot of the “easy” topics—like school, what our schedules are like, and stuff about the academy. We also talked about hobbies and what we like to do in our free time, so it feels like I’ve already gone through most of the obvious conversation starters.
Now I’m kind of stuck in this weird spot where I still want to keep talking to her, but I don’t know how to keep things going without it starting to feel forced or repetitive. One thing I’ve noticed is that she doesn’t really ask me that many questions back, so a lot of the time it feels like I’m the one carrying the conversation or trying to come up with the next topic. It’s not like she’s dry—she replies and engages—but she just doesn’t really push the conversation forward herself.
I don’t want to fall into boring small talk or just ask random questions that don’t really lead anywhere, but at the same time I don’t want the conversation to die out just because I ran out of things to say. I’m trying to figure out how to keep that same natural energy we had at the start, maybe make things a bit more interesting or deeper, without it feeling one-sided or forced. I just don’t really know what the next step is from here. Any tips?