u/AnxiousSoup5815

Bought a Hyundai i10 2024 facelift as my first car and I’m starting to regret it because of people’s reactions.

I’m a beginner driver, so I wanted something:

• easy to drive,
• automatic,
• reliable,
• economical,
• and stress-free in traffic and parking.

The problem is that ever since I got it, almost everyone keeps clowning the car and telling me I should’ve bought something bigger, more powerful, or “cooler” for just a bit more money.

What’s frustrating is people act like upgrading is always easy when they’re not the ones paying for it or dealing with the financial side of ownership.

Now I keep second-guessing myself even though I know the car makes sense logically for a first car and daily city driving.

Did anyone else experience this after buying their first car? Did the regret go away after some time ?

Bought a Hyundai i10 2024 facelift as my first car and I’m starting to regret it because of people’s reactions.

I’m a beginner driver, so I wanted something:

• easy to drive,
• automatic,
• reliable,
• economical,
• and stress-free in traffic and parking.

The problem is that ever since I got it, almost everyone keeps clowning the car and telling me I should’ve bought something bigger, more powerful, or “cooler” for just a bit more money.

What’s frustrating is people act like upgrading is always easy when they’re not the ones paying for it or dealing with the financial side of ownership.

Now I keep second-guessing myself even though I know the car makes sense logically for a first car and daily city driving.

Did anyone else experience this after buying their first car? Did the regret go away after some time?

There's a girl I've had feelings for since 2021 and I genuinely can't figure out if I'm misreading the signals or just refusing to accept what's in front of me.

It started well — she was the one who suggested we watch a football match together after a long shift at work, and she drove me home afterward. That felt like real interest. A week or two later I asked her out for coffee. She said she was busy that weekend and working all week after that. I told myself it was probably a soft rejection but I wasn't sure.

I suggested we do something again sometime. She didn't really engage with it and shortly after left for Turkey. I messaged her saying to hit me up when she got back. She never did.

A few months later I found out through Instagram that she had gone to Bali with a guy. When I brought it up she said the trip was fine and that she went with a group of friends. After that we went completely silent from September all the way to January 2025 — no message from her, nothing. That said she never fully disappeared — she kept watching my stories and liking them regularly the entire time.

In January 2025 I reached out because I was planning a trip to Thailand and thought she could give me some tips since she'd been there. She barely engaged and dropped the conversation halfway through.

Then during my actual trip she randomly messaged me out of nowhere — after months of silence — just to ask if I was going to Bangkok. I said "why, do you need something?" She said yes and told me to let her know when I got to a certain mall. She never told me which mall or what she wanted. I kept posting stories from Bangkok hoping she'd follow up. She never did.

This has been the pattern since 2021. I reach out, she responds. I ask her out, she's busy or vague. She never counters with an alternative. She never invites me to anything — and she works in hospitality so events are a regular thing for her. She's never once taken the initiative to make plans.

But she also never fully cuts me off. She consistently watches and likes my stories. On my birthday this March she messaged me out of nowhere, and came back 11 hours later to continue the conversation unprompted. Recently she reacted to a story of mine but left my follow up message unopened for 6 days. She's also been liking posts about people who only show up when it's convenient for them — make of that what you will.

I'm always the one keeping things alive. She engages just enough to keep me wondering but never enough to actually move things forward.

I don't want to waste more time on someone who isn't interested. But I also don't want to walk away if she's just someone who's guarded or bad at making the first move. My gut says I already have my answer. But part of me wants one last clear attempt — something simple and direct — and then actually move on if nothing comes of it.

Am I overthinking this or is it obvious?