u/Anxious-Parsley159

Hello everyone, I have been talking to this girl for some time now (4 months). I am 20m and she is 19f. It’s my first ever potential partner and I am constantly overthinking and overwhelmed since I don’t have any experience or someone to talk talk with about it. Well just a day ago she told me she sent a ss of our conversation to her friends and they called me a red flag but I thought we were still friends so I asked her what we were but over text and not in person since I was just so overwhelmed and busy with midterms. Well it went well but then I messed it up since she started sharing funny comments from her friend and I simply told her “oh I have a funny one too and explained to her that I canceled on my friend to go watch a movie with her” and she didn’t take it lightly? Idk but suddenly she started being dry and told me she was going to sleep and the next morning she told me that we shouldn’t tell our friends about us so now I’m even more confused because so are we not officially dating or what. Now today she told me about a fair and I told her we should go and she went ahead and said to ask my friend first like what?? I told her I wanted to go with her and then she brought up a planned movie hangout and said she might have to cancel on that. It ended with her saying we should do something else and I just responded with I was going to think of something. I don’t know what to do is this normal behavior, should have I told her in person my confession, should I drop her (I love her so much) but it’s really taking a mental toll on me and I have enough mental toll from studying engineering.