u/Anxiety_boundd

Hi!! I’m getting married soon and I have been going back and forth on inviting my sister who is an alcoholic. We were SO close before her addiction but now it’s been almost 6 years since she became an addict and we hardly speak.

I mourn who she used to be and I’m terrified of regretting not inviting her at all. I have considered not inviting her but placing a photo of her on our table we will have for “those who could not be here” and even though she’s not dead she would be remembered?

Then I have considered inviting her for the ceremony only. But I fear that a lot of my family has not seen her in years (and she looks VERY different due to her addiction) that it will take away from me and my husband. But that would allow for her to be there and leave before the drinking really starts.

Has anyone had a similar issue? And if so, what did you do?

We are about to pull the trigger on whether to install sod or turf. We love the look of turf but the potential smell from dog urine is something we don’t want. We have heard mixed reviews of sprays you can do, but not always seem to work. With sod we THINK we will keep up with the maintenance but who knows… but we love the feeling of real grass and that it will be cooler in the summer.

For those you who are pet owners, do you have sod or turf? And do you love your decision or regret it?