Dear divorceees
My son’s father has found someone new. He tells me it’s a huge infatuation, and suddenly he can see himself having more children (after preaching for 3 years about how unfair that would be to our son). - he told me all this after they’ve known each other for 8 days.
They started going to the gym i go to (suddenly), and there have already been challenges in our co-parenting. Things we used to help each other with are no longer possible. We “share” a dog we got together 10 years ago, suddenly I’m no longer aloud to have him, bc the dog will now be staying at her place. It breaks my heart.
They have known each other for 14 days, and she has been single for 4 weeks, after leaving a 1,5 year relationship, where they were about to start making a baby!
I feel extremely overwhelmed and don’t understand why I suddenly feel this way. We’ve been divorced for 3 years, and I’ve been in a relationship since then, although it was very turbulent and unhealthy.
Suddenly, I’m hit with grief over the family we could have had. I don’t want him back, I’m not attracted to him or in love with him. But I feel incredibly lonely and deeply sad. I worry about the future for my son and our co-parenting, now that everything is moving so fast and is so intense.
I’m afraid he’s making poor decisions because he’s so infatuated.
Is there anyone who can relate to these feelings? Even after so long? And when it’s not about wanting the person back?
How do I cope with them?
Please be gentle with me…