My husband and I are divorcing after 14 years together. We were deeply in love until we started to grow in different directions the past couple years. Within a month of moving out of our home he moved in with a significantly younger woman who works for him.
Every time I start emotionally detaching and limiting communication to co-parenting only, he starts finding reasons to contact me again. Then when I engage, he pulls away. One day he will tell me he wants to reconcile and then the next that he is not interested in me. It’s become a really painful push/pull cycle.
I know nobody here can read his mind, but I’m struggling to understand how someone can detach so quickly - what does this new relationship offer him that his family does not? And why do some people continue seeking emotional contact with their ex while actively building a new relationship?
TIA!