Before I get into anything here is some context. I dated this girl that was in my friend group at the time for almost two years. She put me through some shit long story short but fast forward to today I'm still not too fond of her at all. About 6 months ago I found out her and another one of my dearest friends (different from the one I will be talking about in this post) had hooked up and it completely caught me off guard. I found out through my best friend who this post will be about, we'll call him Tom. Tom and my ex have always been friends even before I dated her so naturally I didn't really care if they remained friends after we broke up but that all changed after I found out what she did with my other friend and what I'm about to tell you. Over this past summer her and Tom have been super weird with each other. Every time we'd go out to bars with the rest of our friends they'd be all up over each other. I'm talking touching each other, she would kiss him on the face and dance with him so super close. Then one day I found out he ended up sleeping over her house after a night out. It would of been fine if he had slept on the couch but no, they slept in her bed with the excuse that "a pillow was in between them". Mind you Tom had a girlfriend at the time that despised my ex just as much as me. And every time we'd go out it would be the same thing over and over with them. To the point where I had some friends saying how weird it was and even asking me if they were dating lol.
Just recently it was Tom's birthday so we went out and what do you know, the usual things happened again. I drove everyone home and he even tried sleeping over at her house with an excuse saying his car was there, mind you his car and all his belongings were at my house lol. So I ended up telling him that I was done being his friend with everything that's been going on the past year. I've repeatedly told him how uncomfortable it made me feel and he still chose to keep doing it. Especially since she already slept with one of my friends, I don't trust her at all with what has been happening between her and Tom. Tom pretty much told me he doesn't understand what he's doing wrong and is upset I don't trust him. That it makes him upset I want to drop him over a girl and just seems to not grasp the scope situation at all stating that she's his best friend too and he's not going to drop her. I didn't ask him to drop her, I simply expressed what boundaries he crossed and what made me uncomfortable but he chose not to give a fuck. All my family members and lots of other friends tell me I did the right thing by dropping him. But Tom is making it seem like I'm making a huge mistake by not being friends with him over a girl. I think I did what most people would do. I'm not crazy right?