u/Anthrosite

I’m not sure how to react or if there’s even anything to be done at this point. For context my ex-wife left me and the kids so she could live with her affair partner. She only has the kids every other weekend and they are 4&5 yrs old.

I’m trying to be a good coparent despite the hatred I feel for her and her bf. Which entails communication about our children’s safety. So I have been openly communicating with her about my intentions to buy a handgun and carry concealed. I got a stopbox yesterday and decided to call her and show that the kids couldn’t get into it after I put candy in it and told them to try and get to it.

During our conversation about it, she revealed that on one of the weekends she had the kids, her boyfriend had left his handgun on the couch overnight and they had no idea until my 5 year old woke them up and told them about it. She claims it wasn’t loaded but at this point I dont believe her nor do I care whether it was loaded or not. At best it was a careless mistake that could’ve resulted something horrible happening. Granted, luckily my kids are smart and knew not to mess with it but still, I’m pissed that it happened at all. And I’m even more pissed that she didn’t tell me about it until now.

I don’t know what to do or if there’s anything to do about it. He’s in the army so I’m tempted to call up his chain of command. But I don’t think they’d necessarily do anything, especially since I don’t have proof of anything happening.

Edit: since it keeps coming up in the comments, the reason I had them try to get candy out of the Stopbox was to make sure they couldn’t get into it even if they’re really motivated to. If they had gotten the stopbox open I would’ve returned it and bought something else. I made sure to have a long conversation with them about what actually would be in the box and they’re smart enough to know not to mess with it. I’m also going to be keeping the stopbox out of reach of the kids.

Edit 2: ffs people the kids know I’m not keeping candy in the stopbox. They’re not stupid, they understand object permanence and abstracts. They know not to mess with it and they couldn’t get into it if they tried.

I’m not sure how to react or if there’s even anything to be done at this point. For context my ex-wife left me and the kids so she could live with her affair partner. She only has the kids every other weekend and they are 4&5 yrs old.

I’m trying to be a good coparent despite the hatred I feel for her and her bf. Which entails communication about our children’s safety. So I have been openly communicating with her about my intentions to buy a handgun and carry concealed. I got a stopbox yesterday and decided to call her and show that the kids couldn’t get into it after I put candy in it and told them to try and get to it.

During our conversation about it, she revealed that on one of the weekends she had the kids, her boyfriend had left his handgun on the couch overnight and they had no idea until my 5 year old woke them up and told them about it. She claims it wasn’t loaded but at this point I dont believe her nor do I care whether it was loaded or not. At best it was a careless mistake that could’ve resulted something horrible happening. Granted, luckily my kids are smart and knew not to mess with it but still, I’m pissed that it happened at all. And I’m even more pissed that she didn’t tell me about it until now.

I don’t know what to do or if there’s anything to do about it. He’s in the army so I’m tempted to call up his chain of command. But I don’t think they’d necessarily do anything, especially since I don’t have proof of anything happening.