Hey girlies, I need advice because this has genuinely NEVER happened to me before lol.
About a month ago I randomly met this girl in the common area of my co-living building, and later we found out we also work in the same office building 😭 In a city with millions of people, the coincidences alone are messing with my head a little.
Since then we’ve been spending a lot of time together and the connection feels kind of unreal. We have so much in common, talk for hours about deep/personal stuff, and I’ve honestly never connected with someone this naturally this fast.
She’s straight, she’s told me about guys she’s been with, and she also knows I like girls. But I can’t lie… I’m starting to really like her. And what scares me is that it feels more emotional/intellectual than physical, which makes it harder to shake off.
The weirdest part is that I’ve ALWAYS been the person saying “I never fall for straight girls.” Like genuinely. Not friends, not celebrities, nobody. Straight girls were always mentally off-limits for me, so this feels like completely unknown territory.
We both go to therapy, and I’ve already talked in therapy about tools to stop myself from building fantasies in my head, but this one has been hard 😭
The main thing is: I really don’t want to lose her friendship. I think she’s genuinely someone worth having in my life no matter what.
I just need advice from girls who’ve experienced this before. How do you stop romanticizing the connection and keep yourself grounded?