[Need Advice || T.W — Abuse] Is it wrong of me to want my brother gone for the sake of protecting this family?
⚠️ : Please read with caution, I'm not sure if this is the right subreddit but I'm too conflicted & scared to rationally think at the moment
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For context, my mother nearly died this morning because of my brother's recklessness & anger. I'm not sure whether it was intentional or accidental because I wasn't exactly at the scene when it happened but I've heard of his fit when I got home.
He threw something at my mother & it's only because of the chair in front of her that saved her from getting punctured / hit on her heart operation.
Apparently, my mother gave my sister her allowance for her needs in her board exam but when he saw and asked as well, my mother said that he shouldn't request such a big sum of money for no reason, which resulted in his sudden fit of anger. She never said no. She just lectured him.
But to go as far as to nearly killing her [whether it was on accident or not] and to pushing our father away in an attempt to ground him is just too much.
I just want him gone. I know I'm not supposed to think of such a thing but if this happened because of something like that, how much more in the future?
I don't know what to do or how to prevent this from happening. I don't love him any less but I don't want anyone to potentially get hurt or worse.
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Note that for a little background,
It's been made aware to me [Youngest] since childhood that my brother [2nd Youngest] is suffering from numerous things, mainly depression & ADHD.
So, It's inevitable yet expected that my parents would lend extra care & attention towards him. Lots of Money was spent towards his needs [His medication & therapy] & wants [cravings, hobbies, etc.]
Its not foreign to us in the family for him to throw / break things at times whenever he was in a fit of frustration & anger. He never directed it towards us
It's just lately that it's gotten worse, in a sense that it's gotten really physical that he'd start aggressively throwing glass cups towards us or result in punching / pushing that we don't know what to do or how to react in these situations.
My brother is very intelligent but too physically strong for any of us to really fight back. So even if we did any action, it'll just worsen things.
We loved and cared for him & he got everything that he wanted that I don't know when things have gone wrong. Was it not enough or was it too much? Were we too gentle or should we have raised him differently?