My husband and I have been together for 10+years and he’s currently on deployment in the Middle East. He has orders to PCS to Japan afterwards but I plan to stay in US due to career/other responsibilities.
We got married at city hall but plan to have our wedding later on as we are still saving $$ for it.
Coming from an Asian family, it has been hard I guess explaining myself on why my husband is okay with moving to Japan even when I won’t be moving there with him. It’s his dream and he would like to live there once in his life which I understand and I think alot of military couples go through this.
I don’t want him to stay any longer than 1 year which is my compromise with him. But it’s hard to explain this concept to my loved ones who just view this as “why is he ok leaving you?”
Yes… it’s hard to be LDR. Yes… it’s nontraditional but I think if I’m ok with it then they shouldn’t have too strong of an opinion and say things like you should give him an ultimatum.
Just curious what others feel and how to respond to those people in a respectful manner? I don’t need responses like “it’s your life, do whatever you want”.