WIBTA if I called out my bestfriends boyfriend for criticising her for being 'weak' at the gym?
So I am 25 year old woman from the UK. I have known my best friend since we met in sixth form when we were 16. We went to different universities, but both came back home after and remained close during that time.
She has been with her boyfriend for around 7 months. It's not exactly like I've been 3rd wheeling, so I've seen him a handful of times but not loads. He seemed like a reasonable and nice man, and she had never really complained about him.
I go to the gym 4 times a week. Her boyfriend goes to the same gym as me 5 times a week. I've only run into him at the gym a couple of times since we seem to go at different times. My friend has never really been a gym person but decided to start becoming more fit and join her boyfriend. She asked me if I wanted to go with them on her first time, and I agreed.
Basically, when we went to the weights section ( pull day), he started berating her and making comments about her ability. We were doing regular inclined curls, and he said to her,'as if you can't even lift 6 lg weights, haow can you be that weak. Then he made more comments as we went along. 'I know you haven't been to the gym before, but come on, you have to be able to lift more than this' 'you're making me embarrassed with how weak you are' 'you want a guy who looks after himself and goes to the gym, yet you never do any excersize yourself, such a hypocrite'.
I couldn't believe it. I was stunned. She seemed hurt, but I think I put on a brave face and tried to play it off as just banter. I wanted to shout at him and tell him to apologise.
But im hesitant. After I asked if she was okay and she said 'yeah its fine, just banter' even though it was clear he was serious. I really want to say something to him but I know she will be angry at me. Tell me to mind my own business. It's her relationship, not mine, etc. Wibta, if I called him out ?
Tl;DR my best friend of 8 years recently, started going to the gym. I joined her and her boyfriend on their first visit. Her boyfriend kept constantly verbally berating her for bot being able to lift heavy enough weights. Saying it was embarrassing. I was so angry at him but feel like it may not be my place. WIBTA, if I said something to him?