u/Angel-M007

So long story short after relocating with my now ex to his hometown, I decided to leave after being together for 3 1/2 years and come back home. My final straw was a family trip from hell with his relatives where he just acted cold towards me. I tried everything and eventually just stopped. We lived like roomates for almost a year with 0 intamacy before that and I gave up alot for this man but it got to a point where my sister said that I need to come home and get some space for the sake of my mental health. I never wanted to end it and neither did he and asked for a break. Only to end it a month over text later and wish me the best. He then got in contact with me while having a mental breakdown and we talked for while and its had its ups and down. But I thought we were actually going back to the good old days and how we were before relocating back to his hometown when we were both happy and in love. And then he hits me with this.

Him: You don't even need a degree if you see a future with me

Me: Hmmm. (NAME), that doors still open. But I wouldn't walk through until you apologize for all 7 times you've told me that you didnt see a future with me. Especially since you basically said that the night before my birthday dude. Cant just keep acting like nothings happened and not at least say your sorry.

Him: Why would I apologize for something that I meant? I don't want a partner who isn't willing to either help pay the bills or be a housewife. Those are my expectations. Which partner would you rather be? I'm going to make the majority of bill paying while not being at home. If you're not going to work full time then I expect you to take care of the house since you'd be home more. If you're going to work full-time like me then I'd pitch in to help take care of the house. Please make that clear to me (My name) and maybe I could apologize. It's not clear to me now.

And later in the convo:

Him: What will you provide for me? What do I get out of a relationship with you? What do you bring to the table.

I will provide payment for all bills, protect the house, take care of the outside house needs, keep transportation in check, and save for a retirement.

Me: Idk the same amount of effort that I was giving you before while and alllll the things I was doing for you of which you ended up rejecting in the end? And whatever I have then? Dude idk I had this idea we were together because we loved eachother and wanted to grow from there out? You dont even talk about anything else needed for a relationship just role playing and finances. Always money. Or my failed classes you complain about paying and yet refuse to let me pay you back for that semester? Nothing about the lack of intamacy, trying to communicate better with eachother, establishing bounderies with your family. Not spending enoguht time together. Nothing about the things that actually needed work??

Mind you at this point I really dont understand why he is trying to get at. Ive always been independent, working , paying my bills when I lived alone, always paid for my personal stuff, my phone bill gas ect when I lived with him. Mind you, we lived with his parents. He didnt pay bills? He keep insisting on helping me with my tuition, of which he paid half of, decided to buy me a car when I was against it. I did appreciate it but he constantly brought that up in arguments. All he talks about is what role ill play as a wife. Maybe because he was so used to how much I did for him and it was alot. His mom even acknowledges it. Which makes me iffy because after 3 1/2 years ( he was my first and only relationship and didnt really understand) Im not so sure marriage will evwr be a thing. I guess Im wondering if its worth even trying to pursue this anymore. I was considering getting another place in the fall which is better than where im at now and closer to the college Im attending of which im actually doing better via classes and passing. I also tbh what clarity if I was really the one who ended it for my peace of mind.