IVF after recurring loss.
Thoughts…
Last year, at 36, I unexpectedly found out I was pregnant. It completely shocked us because we weren’t trying, and I still had an expired birth control implant in my arm. I honestly thought it was still working. Even though it was unexpected, we were so happy. My husband and I have been together for 12 years and married for 6, so the idea of finally having another baby felt special.
I tested positive on a Saturday, and by Wednesday I was bleeding. 💔 We were devastated.
Three months later, we decided to try again. Somehow, I got pregnant on our very first cycle of actually trying and tracking. I remember thinking, “Wow… maybe we’re really lucky.”
Unfortunately, that pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage. I went to my appointment expecting reassurance, only to find out there was no heartbeat. I was supposed to be 11 weeks and 6 days, but the baby measured 11 weeks and 1 day, so it had just happened.
I ended up needing a D&C the following week because nothing was passing naturally. We also had the tissue tested, and finding out she was a genetically normal baby girl with no chromosome issues absolutely shattered me all over again.
My husband has been incredibly supportive and is open to trying again, but with my age, I can’t help but feel like time isn’t exactly on our side. Part of me wonders if we should go straight to IVF, while another part of me wonders if we should continue trying naturally.
I’m just feeling really confused and overwhelmed because we want this so badly. Sorry this was so long.