u/AndyrewG

I was in a 1.5 year relationship with someone with ADHD and OCD and an anxious attachment style.
(A match made in heaven). I remember many times in our relationship where she would bail on plans and I would just be sitting there damn near heartbroken and this kind of caused me to mentally check out at the end. (Not to overshadow the fact that I didn’t help with my avoidant traits) I really wanted to know that they would be there for me (ride or die type mentality) but we I simply never got there with them.

I’ve had problems with intimacy as a man as I think due to traumatic experiences with an older sibling (Not SA but more just making me uncomfortable as a child relating to sexual things and then some suicide/self harm related events I watched them experience)

I place trust as the one of the most important things in a partner.

That brings me to the question: what type of partner did you find that helped you with trust and what else did you do to be a better partner

This breakup definitely broke me and me self aware of my own emotions, which I feel is a good thing (I’ve never been down so bad that I actually just had to bed rot and think for weeks straight) but I still know I should have communicated better.

I (26M) work as a carpenter and commonly get pricked, poked and, scratched everyday. Doing demo yesterday I was working with a man I’ve never worked with. We finished the job and I looked up his name out of curiosity and he was charged with not disclosing his hiv status and infecting someone else. I immediately panicked and thought of the many times I had minor injuries through the job and called my doctor. He said I was fine but I did a telehealth and managed to get PEP and am about to pick it up.

Am I overreacting?

The telehealth doctor pretty much said it was low risk but I feel like I’m making the right decision because:

I don’t know the other individual well and whether they are good at taking antiviral medication to reduce viral load

We were hammering and sawing around nails and sharp splinters and I had a couple times were blood was visible from my small injuries and imagine he had a similar experience

The Dr. pretty much said with pep my chances are near 0 and if that helps with my anxiety she’s willing to prescribe

I don’t feel that this situation is very dissimilar to someone getting poked by a sharp in a medical setting

I also have health anxiety if you couldn’t tell and I apologize for being uniformed about the subject feel free to educate me