My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years. We have done marriage counseling a few times. Most of the time I feel like it’s just the counselor holding my husband accountable for things. For context, my husband and I both struggle with depression. He uses it as an excuse to not do anything. I don’t mean for that to sound unkind if it does. But I’ve been our whole marriage carrying everything by myself and I’m having a mental breakdown. I work part time, take care of our disabled daughter, clean, and cook. The only thing he does at home is the dishes occasionally. He treats me like I’m a maid. He throws his tissues on the ground for me to pick up. He leaves his trash everywhere. I have to keep the house extremely clean due to my daughter’s disability and in home therapy sessions. And he just adds to the stress. I’ve begged him crying to help out more and he says he will but never does. I love him and don’t want to divorce. But how do I get him to wake up? Is couples counseling until the end of time the only solution?
tl;dr I’m having a mental breakdown because of how much is constantly on my plate and my husband won’t help unless a marriage counselor tells him to.
Is marriage counseling till the end of time our only solution?