u/Ancient_Pitch6909

!!!!IF YOU WANT A HIJABI WIFE U APPROACH A HIJABI BADDIE ONLY!!!!
I put on a post regarding marriage where i stated clearly that I am a non hijabi
the amount of men in the DMs fighting me for their lives to put on a hijab or give it a try ☺️⁉️
Ig it was my fault as i had previously posted on reddit abt an encounter w someone who approached me w the intention of marriage and our values weren’t aligned as he didn’t already know i didn’t do hijab right? so i understand him.{my fault not deleting that thread’s comments as they stalked me up and reopened that wound.(i mentioned about struggling)}
BUT INSANITY IS GUYS WANTING ME TO TRY OR SAYING I WILL MATURE INTO IT AS OFTEN WOMEN DO?????
YALL RIGHT IN THE HEAD OR NOT?
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SALAM,

Pakistan Born and Raised

2 Brothers

Non Syed

Hijab: No.

Pretty: Yes

Religious on a scale: 8/10

About me:

I want to start by making it clear I am posting for Very Serious Candidates.

I want to get married within this year if possible we can get families involved right off the bat if we are compatible. Ameen.

Idk if this would work but i’m 22 studying undergrad and i’ve been thinking of letting my soulmate find me sooner I figure he is a good man with a good character educated tall(5’9”+), handsome, has a set of full hair in his 20s (max 31) strong in deen not just practically but spiritually also is well read goes to majlis prays gives charity kind and will be able to handle my personality{something of an extrovert here(too much energy at times)}knows how to cook (survival tier at least)

should be financially stable (now) so we can have 5 kids and 2 ducks in future.

i am smart so someone who can keep up w me mentally ummm..

about me i like to go eat out long walks i love a good comedy i am trying to avoid songs but i have a tendency of listening to the same song over and over again till i get over it i am from a good very loving non problematic family very privileged Alhamdulillah.

i believe myself to be a good person overall i do have flaws but one thing about me is i never stop working on myself i’m very selective about people and who i interact with want to study more in future.

I want my man to be supportive of my career choices i don’t want to work for a living but i do want to do something with my life like a life purpose so i am looking for a MAN who supports me not just financially but emotionally too. I want my husband to support my education in future.

((Do not want to financially contribute in the marriage))

while i am open to relocating but i’d prefer someone who’s based here (pakistan)

oh and i’m very conventionally pretty yk the kind that aunties flock around 😋☝️.

Great genes green eyes run in my family.

Please send me your profile.

If anyone is seriously interested kindly reach out to me or you can always refer if you think i am suitable for someone you know.

If you have any other questions feel free to ask.

Least you can do is give a little prayer to this sister in islam in comments.

Thank you everyone ❤️

UPDATE: ⏬⏬

I am getting to know someone with the intention of getting married it is in v initial phases it has only been a few days since we started talking to each other

I feel like his faith is a lot stronger than mine

which is something I admire too honestly but it is worrying me

I am 23F and the guy is 23M

I am not a hijabi either so ig a lot of religious guilt comes from that thing alone that is why i am not confident in our compatibility

He earn well has no issues w anything else (I thought he had no issue w me not having a hijab on but he said that he expects his wife to do hijab as he will be Answerable to Allah and Bibi S.A for it)

but he mentioned something along the lines of that

When i asked him that “what are the qualities you admire in a woman?”

He said “Willingness of her to get better in deen.

Hunger for knowledge

Desperation of her self to do something for Allah only.

A really good character is a must.

Basically the more closer she is like Bibi in her everything the more i will fall

in love with her.

And i will do my absolute best in helping her achieving the next best level in all those until i die

The thing is you don't know me. I swear the people who do knows. If i really fall for you i will go above and beyond for you. As a real man.”

I am not confident that i could ever come close to Bibi in terms of her character I have many flaws

i do consider myself fairly religious but i am no where near that level where i could aspire to start even becoming like her.. Ik she is a role model for every woman for mine too

HOWEVER

if that is the basis of Love for example I could only be loved if he finds my character like satisfactory The notion of it scares me

Why do i have to change myself for better or worse to be loved by my partner :(((.

Do you think we are not compatible as i believe he is asking too much from me?

UPDATE: 🔻

so i asked him and he is Ok with me not doing hijab rn because i am not his wife but REQUIRES his wife to do hijab as well in future and i told him that is a deal breaker from his side and he said leave this issue rn? and said he will influence me into putting it on through his character InshAllah….. And I am here wondering if i should be the one to make it clear that this is likely not going to work mind u we have been talking for three days