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If I get anything out of going through this divorce, it’s hopefully helping someone else get through theirs.
I’ve been through the wringer, and it’s not even close to over. But here’s what’s kept me from completely losing it.
When it first started, someone gave me this framework. It might sound simple, but it’s been solid:
Don’t do or say anything you might regret later
Be kind and helpful
Ask: what would God have me do in this situation?
Remember: they are God’s child too, and loved just as much as you
If you’re not religious, swap “God” for whatever you consider a higher standard or principle. The point still works.
A couple practical things that have helped:
1. Daily gratitude (even when you don’t feel it)
Every morning I text a few close friends 5 things I’m grateful for.
They don’t have to be deep. They don’t have to be original. Hell, they don’t even have to change day to day.
Just 5 things you’re lucky to have.
It sounds stupid until you realize it actually stabilizes you.
2. When it gets really dark
And it might… it did for me.
Look yourself in the mirror and say this out loud:
“There will be a day I’m glad I didn’t kill myself.”
You don’t have to believe it in that moment.
Just say it anyway.
Because if you stick around long enough, it becomes true.